Going To A Bar Alone Is Cool If It's Just Temporary. my boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me at all..we are in a long distance relationship and the next day he gives me excuses like i was "too drunk" and passed out. You're dating or living with this good looking guy, maybe he's charming and you feel wanted . I have never really understood the "allowed" part I guess. Whether he is hooking up with another girl or not, I'd question why he would be drunk often. It's okay to relax. The good thing about that is when he turns M. on or says sexy things to M., I don't have to turn him down and I get to go home with him! 2. Again, there are exceptions. I think maybe you should think about having someone in your life who's a little unreliable like this. Does He Wish To End It? Smackin' The ex's butt toward swinging floor. Ok, I have answered all those other posts you mentioned so I will on yours as well. How many people have you slept with in your life?? "It likely means that they don't want you in family photos and/or on their family's mind. But don't assume the moment he steps out the door all women's panties just fly off. We J. like to know where the other one is, more for safety than out of paranoia or concerns of cheating. Course I'm the wife who has encouraged her husband to go to the strip club with his friends for bachelor parties he knows he can get his appetite anywhere as long as he eats at home :) and I definitely reap the benefits of those rare sojourns into gyrating nekid females :). I don't ask many questions. I on the other hand don't know a single woman who is attracted to other women. Your boyfriend is an adult who shouldn't have to notify you of all of his comings and goings. She doesnt mean ask permission. And just a little hint (whens playing games-such as baseball- you cant just change the rules to benefit yourself). Like doing some. To get drunk. I see people there I know, sometimes men, sometimes J. the servers. But this is volunteer. See how he likes it. If my husband is going on a site visit alone with herhe usually tells M.J. in case I get a call he is out and about with a young blonde female that is not M.lol. Sorry, but I think that's wrong. Did you find this post helpful? ***My hubby used to get mad when we'd be out for drinks together and he'd go to the bathroom and come back and find a guy talking to M.. We didn't speak since 6. I've seen a lot of posts on here recently about whether its ok for a married or committed person to go to lunch/bar with single person of the opposite sex (or same gender depending on preference) and it had M. wondering if you guys/girls ever go to a bar or an establishment where other singles are and talk to new people? I went to sleep at 11 pm and now it's 6 am in the morning and he hasn't messaged me at all. Um, no. You still are a person, apart from your spouse. I feel neglected and I don't think I should be treated like this. He is free to go where he wants and so am I but we make choices to do and go places that honor our marriage and protect it at all costs. I think that is how the trust goes both ways. As soon as he is off the phone he jumps up and yells lets party. People go to bars..why? The constant fighting wouldn't help either, and I'd say that the relationship could be headed towards a breakup unless he wants to pay more attention to you. Started Monday at 06:41 PM, By I think the way it is going is great and that in time you won't worry about it and your relationship will deepen because of it.. So *would* I go to a bar w/out my spouse? But not everyone would know the difference. Like myself. Inevitably he DOES get hit on by both men and women. I toned down my friendliness over the years to make him more comfortable. I am sorry, it is hard to deal with, i know. (You won't be happy if your wife is gone every night.) We asked if we could use the gift certificate right then for lunch and still get the $5 off coupon. My kuwait he text me day and night but no telphone call. But for M. it would be fine. If you agreed on something whether it be notifying the other about what youre doing or where you are going, if you decide you dont feel like that is the right thing for you two anymore then a conversation should take place. We LIKE being home together. Also, my bf will flirt with girls, and I find out about it the next daythis doesn't make me too happy. He needs to tell you everything that He does ? pastoralcucumbers I am not sure what the inside of a bar looks like nowadays.We J. don't go anyway. (We are both 29 btw) When I expressed my feelings of disagreement, he told me I'm being insane. She may be looking for love or just hungry for attention. Even I have had experience with these and I can tell you how inappropriate it is to not hear from your boyfriend. He probably went to bars like 2-4 days a week. In any event, simply do what you feel comfortable with and if you particularly don't want to go topless in front of your friend's fella keep your bikini top on, wear a onepiece swimsuit, or suggest to your dh that the pair of you slope off to another part of the beach where you won't feel so inihibited. What scares me is my jealousy. After extensive research, he discovered he could create dramatic changes to his health simply focusing on 3 things that sabotage our body as we age. Luckily, we have every other weekend to ourselves when our kids are at our ex's house. he possibly has a minor drinking problem The only time it becomes an issue is when other people judge you per say or make comments like-really!? He is away but he is not gone. On weekends I don't have my kids, I . Short answer: yes, it's okay. I did the club scene in college, but that kinda got out of my system too. My issue here is probably from my past. But the. answers from Chicago on October 30, 2008. If it's a trend, however, you might need to do some reflecting. explicit permission. I tried to make friends with the girls, but it didnt help because when he made a comment about how good she looked in the thong, it showed no regard for me. But there's obviously cases where the spouse is comfortable with the environment like you described J. M. so I don't see an issue. I guess I J. can't really imagine being in a relationship with someone that I didn't trust enough to be "allowed" to hang out with the opposite sex. I wouldn't want to tempt her or her M.. Good relationships are too hard to come by and I wouldn't want to jepordize one. We've been going there for about 3 months now. Let's face it - we all know bars can be totally unconducive places for relationships. You know, if you're meeting up with friends at a bar and you get there early. Of course I do, but the first time he says "I forbid you" is the time he gets a laugh in his face. You wanna pay me 500 bucks an hour I can ask you as many questions as you feel like answering. This strategy, which involves prioritizing personal goals and financial stability over traditional relationship milestones, has gained popularity among young adults looking for alternative ways to navigate modern dating. "And if . I don't want to ask for his attention. Needless to say, the abuse of such substances can negatively affect decision-making. Bars are often pick-up spots and can offer temptation for someone who's on the fence in their relationship.". That I trust him to hang out means he can trust that if I say she give M. a bad vibe it isn't because she is pretty, or anything, it is J. something is off. We recently got married and he got divorced two years and a half ago. If you talk with your boyfriend about how you feel, maybe he can assuage your fears. he'll want me to stay in touch with him when I go outbut then once he goes out its MIA for hours and hours. Karmic Relationships: What They Are & When To Leave, According To Experts, 5-Ingredient Meals That Everyone In The Family Will Love, 30 Women's History Month Facts That'll Remind You How Badass Women Are, 8 Black-Owned Parenting & Baby Brands To Try, What Parents Are Talking About Delivered Straight To Your Inbox, By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. But I've certainly made myself a margarita at home alone :) If I were to do that, or my husband were to do that, I personally would think that's odd -- or 'something' is up (due to our personalities, not because we don't trust one another). Norris says he started learning about this revolutionary new method when he noticed most of the supplements he was taking did little or nothing to support his health. And of course, a person of normal mentality, does place their relationship or marriage, first. You get anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you're worried he's cheating, or that you aren't good enough and he'll find someone better. HOWEVERI think you don't have much to worry about. Anyways, tonight he is going out with his buddy (whom I have met) and he let me know. I go to a bar every once in a while, for a drink , by myself. Started Saturday at 12:43 AM, By The only time I got really concerned was at the beginning when would tell me she was going out with a guy friend. The fastest way to see a mans true colours if he does run, even better. If you want to keep this guy then you will have to learn to give him his freedom. To M. it seems like it's J. some women who are attracted to women, not the majority. It's not that we can't go out, we J. don't want to. This could be a sign of cheating because he is projecting onto you. To a bar he goes to frequently and before he met with you, would meet up with a lot of girls, some of which are a lot younger and they still frequent this bar. Hafta to do it at home I guess. Now if he went to a place like that by himself I woudl worry something was up for 2 reasons. Just tonight I decided if we are going to have a future together, I need to give him his time to himself and not bombard him with texts. That's awesome. try it, be honest, truthful, and if its meant to be, its meant to be. My husband and I both worked at bars, so we're very secure with our marriage.. Also, there can be some exceptions and ultimately, you and your partner probably know your relationship best, so just because they've done one of these things before doesn't necessarily mean that they're done with you or have completely checked out. Third is that you seem to be insecure deep down about your bf's party animal past and don't trust him. I operate on the fact that it is a habitual and disrespectful ploy to hide a double lifestyle. So I spend quite a lot of time with people who are not part of my nuclear family. My problem is I'm very, very jealous when my husband goes out without me. Some people trust because they are good people and lack experience and it's just the right thing to do. You know that your a girl. If your partner doesn't seem interested in having you involved in trip planning or is actively working on plans for trips without you, that could be a sign that something's going on,. A know a few guys who don't do that. "There's nothing wrong with getting drinks with coworkers or going out for a guys/girls night with friends," Herring says. She dumped me for a guy she met there one night. 10. i want him >, just relax ! A "spouse" is an adult. At some point it stop all of us out of here undertaking 2am. nah. agreywood 7 yr. ago Am I nuts? =). But don't be anxious, you are good enough and I'm sure he loves you like you love him. since I'm an adult no one LETS or ALLOWS M. to do anything. Like whatever, I love him so much that I could do anything for him but who am I to fool I can't stand this any longer. 9. Clubs and bars are places to find one night stand and occasional sex partners. My advice - Hangout with your friends, go places that interest you without him and make sure he knows your having fun without him but don't rub it in his face. He had a boyfriend, and as far as I knew, he was just being nice. If it was only when he went out to have a bit of fun and didn't text through the evening, no problem. Wife of 8 years straddled and flirted with my friend last night while drunk What did you do guys if you really really miss someone but you dont want to text or call him? What is good for one family isn't always what's good for another. You could talk to him about what he wants and what you want, and reach an agreement together. I am dealing with the same thing too. I've never thought about going for a drink alone, but some of you ladies make it sound mighty tempting- going out for a pint and a good read sounds J. up my ally this Friday afternoon! I think you need to face up to that and . By So, I told him i dont want him to feel he has to ask me whenever he wants to do anything. The thing last time he said he wouldn't get drunk and he did. To M., that is playing with fire. The Best Gifts for Men in 2023 - Up to 30 different gift ideas for your man! Also, you've officially met a women who has no attraction whatsoever to other women!! You still have freedom. As I mentioned above, he may just need some time to himself. They might give M. a hug, but that's where it ends. "I guess it depends from one man to another. He eventually earned my trust back and went to a bar with his friend. You are still an individual. It would be one thing if your SO is telling you where you can and cannot go. I trust him to make choices that won't betray my needs and wishes (this wasn't always true). agirlwithnoname Yes I go out with out my husband.. if Im talking to anyone and they try to pick M. up using thier cheesy lines I let them know right away Im married. You get worried when you see your partner with someone else. So if you know your husband goes to the townie bar, gets all excited to see the regulars, cheers when people walk in, picks ladies up so they can feel girly, and flirts, then yes, you shouldn't feel bad to do the same as long as you are both feeling happy about it and having fun. I think that he asked that question confirms why you have your specific boyfriend and why that guy is not said boyfriend. But even if I could go out it wouldn't be to a bar. I'm 36 and he is 40, with two young kids who are adorable. J. my opinion but it isn't for us. He said what he meant, and he meant what he said. However it's phrased it shows a lack of security or trust. Tech Organizer. In my circle of friends, I am the cook, I know what it feels like. You know when you are dating someone who cares and you know when you are dating a player. Most chicks out here don't go out to bars as singles. He is the most amazing person in the world and I just don't know what to do. i dont really know how to feel about this. We have no problem with this and neither do most of the couples among our friends. "[I]f you find that your partner is more engaged with text messaging friends or on social media when you're with them, this is a sign that they are not present in the relationship," Hershenson says. I let my college girlfriend go out with the girls. We are all the product of our experiences. I saw some people I know and I guess we go there enough, some of the staff know M. by sight. I have also felt the "most women are bisexual" opinion to be not true in my circles. blissfulblue 568 views, 38 likes, 3 loves, 3 comments, 74 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from El poeta boaner: El poeta boaner was live. BTW I can say that the majority of women I know are attracted to women as well (even if they don't act on it) so should they be banned from everyone=)Advertisementif(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[320,50],'mamapedia_com-box-3','ezslot_4',679,'0','0'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-mamapedia_com-box-3-0');if(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[320,50],'mamapedia_com-box-3','ezslot_5',679,'0','1'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-mamapedia_com-box-3-0_1'); .box-3-multi-679{border:none !important;display:block !important;float:none !important;line-height:0px;margin-bottom:5px !important;margin-left:auto !important;margin-right:auto !important;margin-top:5px !important;max-width:100% !important;min-height:50px;padding-bottom:20px !important;padding-top:20px !important;text-align:center !important;}. I don't go by myself but when I was young and single I did. So, with that being said, if he wants to go out with his buddy once a week, its fine. If not, he'll just call you the next morning and explain his night.. you know? I think as long as a couple is totally happy and equal that's all that matters. He has the right to have a life, gosh. Do the same to him hun. I'm sorry to say hes not worth ti. No, I know it is. So no I wouldn't do that, but I would have an opposite sex friend even in a committed relationship if it was okay with all parties involved. i have a hard time trusting he's not hooking up with another girl..i have talked to him before how i wish he would call me, but we always end up fightingwhere do i go from here..is this a big deal or something not to be concerned about. Started February 23, By He even texts me when he is out, and calls or texts when he gets home. I do think individuals should have "M. time" and couples should have dates. While this can be a helpful resource for some, others are using these platforms to self-diagnose and potentially harm their mental health. Tell him you also have a good time there even when you cannot wait to see him again. I think there is a huge difference when hanging out with friends is taking up more time than hanging out with family. Seriously . ? WE did just make up from a fight couple days ago. I personally would not do that. You know the one that is filled with mostly guys, laid back and where everyone knows everyone and if you don't you will by the time you walk out and people cheer when you walk in the door? registered trademarks of Ziff Davis Canada, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without he always blames it on being wasted and passing out. However, I also don't see a problem with going to lunch with a coworker from the opposite sex as long as it was completely platonic. khairete It is just very hard, because I am deathly afraid of being cheated on. .. Its not in my personality to go to a bar alone.but I have gone out to the bar with some girlfriends and/or my SIL. Feeling down or depressed is a common experience for many people at some point in their lives. I see both sides here. I just want to hear stories of people whose SO goes out with his/her friends and your ok with it? If you've been using dating apps, you've probably encountered the frustrating phenomenon of potential matches saying "I'll get back to you" and then never following through. Here^s what I got from what I read: 1. They got married a year later. 1. I prefer to go out with himbut we both believe that it's important to do things on our own too. She means a simple text saying hey when I get off work Im gonna go have some drinks with friends. He was drunk and he is supposed to go to work in the morning. It hasn't been my thing since I was about 22. I am a single Mom so I am almost never without my kids. I have no problem because I love girls weekends. Because, I 100% trust him and hes a good dude. And now he was at a party and he messaged me around 9 pm telling he loved me. Started February 13, By I did. But, that's not the point of your post so I digress. <3. Sorry - J. reality in my world - you haven't made a LIFETIME commitment to your boyfriend - hence the fact he is bf and not dh. It is trying to control each other because deep down you don't trust each other to behave in a party environment. First of all, guys NEED this time to well, do what guys do. If they're going out far more often than they ever used to, it might not be a good sign, relationship-wise. Yuck. **Updated, Discussion-Having Single Friends When Married. It is a neighborhood place that serves beer and wine.. but also burgers and stuff. Night after Friday night, he'd ask about my week, make jokes with me during lulls in the bar rush, and never charge me for my vodka buzz. He had work but still a simple text would've done. Davidgrx if its a guys night out and its like 10 buddys sure, if hes going by himself, somethings a foot.Going out with your buddys is homosocial behavior, A typical of men. And you allow that? At all. Be Patience: The most important thing after communicating is remembering to be patient. If it was a few hours I'd be fine but he goes off grid for like 10/12 hours at a time and then texts to say his phone died, or he left it at home etc should I be questioning this? Honestly..what i'm going to start doing is when I know hes going out to drink, you should just play his game..don't text/ call him..let him come to youif he does. help!!! The veteran drinker is usually front and center, taking shots or downing beers like one of the guys. Started January 19, By When guys go to strip clubs to ogle "hot . the next morning he said he was wasted with a bunch of his friendsand hes not the type to cheat on a girl, but who know what can happen when their drunk you know? So my wife and I go out to this bar pretty much every Wednesday night for Karaoke. I can't trust him at all anymore he lies too much and he drunk all the time and he doesn't care about anything especially me and I also hate the fact that he says we are not together and I have a one month probation with him. But even if that's your case, can you honestly say you don't have a hand in it? We don't go to meet new people--we go to have girl time. I do think it is okay to have opposite sex friends. good luck! Having a "Guys" night. Did you know that at least 4000 to 5000 of my posts were done before the thumbs up even came in. Even if you don't actually go out. my boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me at all..we are in a long distance relationship and the next day he gives me excuses like i was "too drunk" and passed out. At first i let him do it until thats all he would do and i barely got to spend time with him. 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